crack the plates

As you probably already know, I hosted a successful free sale about a month ago. (For more details and DIY suggestions, check out my earlier write-up). Over thirty “shopped” and about half of the attendees also brought items for sharing. While this was a wonderful surprise, it also meant that at the end of the day, we had much, much more than what we’d started with. Oh, what to do?

The natural response was to take everything to a local thrift store (or two, to spread the love). But as I sorted through the items to be donated, I noticed that many of them could–should–be put to use immediately. Like the 20 or so jackets that didn’t get taken, or the half-dozen good-quality men’s sweaters. I didn’t feel comfortable taking these kinds of items to the thrift stores where employees & volunteers readily share the fact that it often takes months for clothes to get on the racks. (I don’t know about you, but I’ve seen the gigantic intake rooms of the local Goodwill and Salvation Army–not pretty.) What good does it do to donate high-demand, seasonal warm clothes in January if they may not make it out til June?

Also: the focus was on free. Goodwill & Salvation Army are certainly cheap–but they’re not free. I hosted a free “sale” to move myself & others towards an anti-consumer vision of simple abundance & sharing. How to continue in that spirit?

I decided to contact local community centers & direct aid organizations. I first called GENESIS of the YWCA, our overburdened & perennially underfunded domestic violence, sexual assault, & homeless agency serving women in Wayne & four other area counties. I was sadly informed that they could not accept further material donations because they’ve dwindled down to one volunteer who, alone, is slowly chipping away at the mountain of donations from times past. In short, the receptionist explained, GENESIS is not able to reach women in need with some of these items because they simply don’t have the people-power to organize & distribute what is already there. Because this need made my own desire to donate impossible, I placed an announcement soliciting volunteers in our church bulletin &  received a great response. (If you’re in the 47374-area and want to volunteer, just let me know–I’m coordinating volunteer orientation in early March. And if you can’t donate you’re time, they’re still accepting donations of money, food, and cleaning products. More info here.)

Rebuffed by GENESIS, I next tried AMIGOS, Richmond’s Latino/a Center. I explained my situation; amazingly, the person who answered had tried a kind of free sale of her own at AMIGOS just a month prior! She breezily recounted how she had to strongly encourage the suspicious young moms & other community members to take advantage of the items that had been laid out for free. “Our friends are not used to getting things for free. Here, they work hard for what little they have and don’t expect anything else. They have a hard time accepting these valuable items as no-strings-attached gifts.” She also provided some insight into the cultural differences of the US and Mexico (where she lived for a while & where many of AMIGOS’ clients call home): in the US, she explained, you can be wealthy, your brother dirt-poor, & nobody questions your character. The poor brother is blamed for his personal moral/etc failings. In Mexico, that isn’t okay. If your sister or brother is hungry or homeless, you do whatever you can to help.” After a great in-person conversation we set a date for the big AMIGOS free sale!

I admit, the desire to reach out in this particular way didn’t just pop into my mind–my mom inspired it. For most of my childhood she worked in the grounds (landscaping) department of an elite private Atlanta country club (golf course); she was the only Bobcat-driving woman in that hardscrabble department & most of her colleagues were undocumented immigrants, many doing unskilled manual labor. Every year or so she’d round up our family’s ill-fitting clothes & take them to Atlanta for distribution among the friends with whom she regularly shared lunch, cracked jokes, & picked up new delightfully dirty words. It was a profoundly meaningful act of giving, even at a young age.

I support donating to thrift stores; after all, that’s where I get the majority of my clothes and household items! But I don’t think any of us ought to underestimate the impact of giving directly in our communities. We can seek out opportunities to improve the quality of life for others by giving our time & material resources to organizations doing local good. Next time you have a pile of clothes, useful household items, or the like, check locally for women’s shelters/centers, substance-abuse recovery homes, tutoring programs–whichever you think might be in a good position to receive whatever you have to give.

I learned that people are ready to respond with generous hearts–they just might need the opportunity! In the days leading up to the AMIGOS event I solicited donations at church & encouraged my friends to ask their friends for donations. In addition to offering some of her own daughter’s former items, one friend connected me with a mom who literally filled our car with boxes and bags of toys, baby clothes, children’s books, and similar in-demand items. jackpot, I thought, as I made a housecall to pick up the abundance. Other friends donated a dresser that was quickly scooped up by a local family at the event.

The most memorable moment of the event was, for me, when I noticed a young boy, about seven, flipping through some of the donated books. He’d taken a fancy to a few but wasn’t quite sold on James and the Giant Peach, one of my childhood favorites, til I started excitedly telling him the story of the little boy with the horrible aunts who climbs up into a magic giant peach, meets some crazy new friends, and travels all the way to New York City! He hung on to my every word, eyes widening, mouth slowly gaping, til finally I finished & he asked softly–”Do you mind if I take that one home?”

Open yourself to such moments! Host, or facilitate, a free sale today! Some inspirational photos from the event:

In the weeks leading up to Christmas, my friend & pastor Matt encouraged our congregation to consider the ways we can embody the counter-cultural, anti-materialistic message of Jesus in one of the most insanely commercial times of the year. (You know, that time when Christians are supposed to be so joyously anticipating the advent of his radical life & message?) On several Sundays, folks shared their plans: donate an equal amount spent on gifts to a charitable organization, write a few meaningful cards instead of sending a slew of autographed pages, making presents instead of buying, hosting parties instead of giving individual gifts. All great ideas.

I’ve had the opportunity to spend some time studying 60’s counter-culture while in seminary, particularly that of the diggers & yippies, and so I naturally wanted to try to organize a “free sale” for my community. Free stores/sales still pop up every once in a while, but they’re by no means as common or popular as they once were. The diggers who opened the first stores claimed that Americans (Amerikans?) had entered a post-scarcity world where new items no longer needed to be produced or purchased. Instead, whatever you needed was likely sitting unused (or underused) at your buddy’s house, and too much was being thrown needlessly in the trash. Beloved communities didn’t need superstores to buy more; instead, they yearned for a centrally-located space where people could share what they no longer needed and the needy could take home whatever might improve their lot.

Fast-forward about 40 years. Nate & I realized that much of what we own we don’t need for a variety of reasons–don’t use/don’t like/have duplicates, etc. The clutter was getting to us; our possessions had become a part of us, and they wore like wet clothes. How wistful I got over the days when I could pack everything I owned into my compact car! Of course, I didn’t sit around feeling sorry for myself too long–I got to work organizing the free sale! And on Sunday, January 10, from 12pm-10pm, we invited friends & neighbors into our home to take what they needed. Over 30 “shopped”, most brought items for sharing, and no one left unhappy. It was exhausting, to be sure, but truly a success.

For those who might like to try one of their own (& I highly encourage it!) here’s a little run-down of what we did:

1) Went through our stuff: clothes, toiletries, housewares, media, kitchen items, even some food. On & off, this took a few days. It was difficult in all the usual ways that going through and getting rid of stuff can be for packrats, so don’t expect it won’t be if you’re that type. We found it helped to amass everything in one obvious, centralized location such that we could observe our progress.

2) I made facebook & e-mail event invitations; I announced the event at church and in safe public spaces. I emphasized the following: “Feel free to take whatever you need/find interesting/would like to give away to someone else in need.” I also noted that it would be a community event open to those who didn’t need or want to give away stuff, but simply wanted the company of like-minded folks: “this will also be a time for visit & brainstorm the ways that we can continue to live into a countercultural, anti-corporate vision of peace, sharing, and simple abundance. So come for conversation, tea, dreaming…”

3) I quickly addressed guests’ burgeoning desire to bring stuff to the free sale. Two possible reasons for this: we grow up hearing, skeptically, “there’s no such thing as a free lunch”, so folks have a hard time with the “truly free”, instead preferring to bargain/barter/trade. Second reason: people got really excited about the idea & opportunity to clean out closets and help others! If you host a free sale, anticipate that friends will want to bring items for giving away–and how. By the end of our sale, we had replenished stock at least fourfold.

It may also be wise to advertise, when possible, your availability to pick items up. Folks may not take you up on the offer, but it’ll be encouraging & hospitable to those who need it.

4) We allowed folks to come just a couple hours early that day to drop items off.

5) We arranged items by room, clearly marking what was available for taking and what wasn’t. For instance,

• a huge table in the kitchen had all the kitchen stuff
• the bedroom hosted all the clothes (on the bed, in neat piles), shoes, and purses/bags
• an even bigger table in the office held the housewares and etcetera
• the living room was the common area, where lounging, talking, and cupcake-consumption happened

6) We opened our home from 2-10pm (officially). We gave everyone who came in a brief “tour”, explaining how the rooms were arranged

7) We stood by, making new batches of cupcakes, cups of tea, grinding coffee beans, and answering questions as folks browsed, dreamed, and enjoyed the simple abundance of togetherness.

8. We connected items with folks looking for particular things, sometimes giving beyond what we had planned: in one case, a student & friend from Nigeria had recently moved and needed kitchen wares. After rounding up items from the common table, I searched our pantries for extras to make his transition a little easier. A pot I hadn’t planned to part with, but that I didn’t need too terribly (just liked a lot), went his way when I learned of the need. Don’t be afraid to open yourselves to this kind of exchange! It might feel uncomfortable at first (we like things, we really like them!) but eventually the pain of the trivial loss is replaced by the soothing understanding that you have provided for another in need.

9) We closed up shop a little late, crashed, and went easy on ourselves the next day. It was great fun, totally worth it, but as I mentioned, exhausting. Plan for it. But, of course, don’t let it discourage you… instead…

…Build beloved community! De-clutter your life! Loosen the stranglehold of consumerism! Host a free sale today!

Much peace,

Adrienne